Advice from Not-So-Newlyweds: Test Your Marriage!

 Advice from Not-So-Newlyweds: Test Your Marriage!

Today we have a fun post from Ceindy of Ceindy Doodles, an extremely talented wedding invitation designer and hand-letterer. Together she and her husband have been together for 10 years and have a five-year-old son. This is her best advice for how to make your marriage work...read on for more!

Half my life. That’s how long I’ve known my husband. Ten years is how long we’ve been pretty serious. Our son is five. Our marriage is young, three back in July. Ryan and I still work on our relationship every day.

When Maria asked me to write this blog, I knew immediately what to write about. I am a lover of quizzes - Buzzfeed can suck my life and tell me what my choice of carbs means (apparently I give great advice - how appropriate) and my H&M choices means I should be a zombie for halloween. So when I saw that there was a Love Languages quiz, of course I had my hubby take it with me.

This 30 question quiz taught us so much about how we feel loved. The quiz is very easy and quick to take. Even though we have been together for so long, we were both surprised by some of the answers we gave in the questions. The answers at the end made a lot of sense to us, but in some ways we never would have thought of these ways of showing love.

I would highly suggest all couples taking this quiz, to learn what the best ways are to show your partner how much you love them. And to pay attention to how you may be neglecting them.

For instance, my husband is a touchy lover. I’ve always felt like he was extra touchy to me, but I didn’t understand that was how he showed love and it was how he felt loved. However, I am not touchy - in fact, probably the least touchy person you’ve met. Sometimes, I used to find his touching annoying, but now that I know he doesn’t mean to be annoying. I am learning to adjust, to take moments to touch him back, to hug a second longer, to snuggle when we get a chance.

Ryan learned that I feel loved through acts of service, meaning help around the house, taking care of Arik when I’m trying to finish up freelance projects, and even just bringing me water when I’m in my uber work mode. And he realized that since that is how I love he understands that when I’m making us dinner, asking what he wants from the store, and all that I do, is equal to him hugging me.  

I guess the bottom line is that, we all show and feel love differently. So just because it’s not 100% how you would like it, it doesn’t mean they are not offering 100%.

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Ceindy is a designer, lettering artist, wife, and mom. She loves letters, cute doodles, carbs and ice cream. She fills her day at Red Chalk Studio, her nights with her family, and her late nights with her side-hustle, Ceindy Doodles.

Maria Grace Photography

My name is Maria, and I am a wedding and family photographer based out of Hampton Roads, Virginia, but I am always excited about traveling. I love families who truly enjoy spending time with each other and living life together. I love couples that are looking forward to their wedding day because they are so excited to finally be married to.