The Honest Truth About...Adoption | Monday Musings

The Honest Truth About...Adoption | Monday Musings

Most of us, especially those who are reading this, live at least a portion of our lives online. We share what is going on using social media and keep connected with other people through it. The problem, as all of us know, is that this provides only a small picture of someone else's life. My girl Hannah Brencher always says there's a huge difference between investigating and investing in another person.

I want to be an investor, not simply an investigator. In light of this, I'm starting a series today called The Honest Truth to authentically peel back the curtain on the things I have experience with and what I've learned along the way. I can't promise to know it all, but what I do know I promise to honestly and truthfully share with you so that you, too, can know The Honest Truth. Today...it's about adoption.

For better or worse, adoption is extremely glamorous from the outside. A lot of people have told us they admire us for what we are doing. A lot of people have the notion that we are rescuing a child from a world of future hurt. Even more people have said they could 'never do what we are doing.'

The sentiments behind all of this is incredibly sweet, but...

The Fight to Be Unselfish | Monday Musings

The Fight to Be Unselfish | Monday Musings

Last year I went to Africa. Twice. I already wrote several blogs about that (see here and here) so I won't review everything that happened, but visiting a much poorer country awakened me to something that has bothered me my entire life. I spent most of my childhood overseas in Asia and had very different experiences than most people I know who grew up in America. Some were good and some made me want to come "home," but the older I get the more I realize that I haven't yet found out where my home really is.

What has consistently bothered me is the mindset that I slip into once I return from an overseas trip. While I am there it is easy for me to be all about everyone else. I can jump in and serve the team, even doing things I absolutely hate doing, with utter joy. Being off my schedule doesn't bother me much and for however long I am there I don't even worry about my business...

What We Do to Reconnect | Monday Musings

What We Do to Reconnect | Monday Musings

As it turns out, any relationship can grow old, stale, or contentious if you let it. I'm only six years into marriage and I still have so much to learn, but one thing Nathan and I found out quickly is that investing in our relationship always pays off in dividends. I know this looks different depending on what season of life you're in (dating, engagement, marriage, children, empty nesters, etc.) but I think it's a universal truth that the most important thing you can invest is time.

Believe it or not, Nathan and I fight from time to time ;) On most occasions we (thankfully) fight about little things that are simply a reflection of our frustration with another area in our lives, a result of being tired after a long day, or just the fact that we are human beings and things will always come up no matter what. Nathan has always been good at checking in on our marriage - how we're doing, how we feel towards each other, how life is outside of our home - and making sure we are on a good track.

Most of the time we are, but there have been times when we've sat down to look and realized our fighting and frustration is much higher than normal...