How to Help a Friend through Grief | Monday Musings

How to Help a Friend through Grief | Monday Musings

This blog has been on my heart for a long time, but I have hesitated to write it because it’s a hard thing to talk about. Though I had experienced loss before, losing Joel made me face true grief in a new and bigger way. We truly could not have made it through that time without our friends, family, and the community that lifted us up as we grieved, both then and now.

One of the biggest blessings to me was that everyone treated Joel like he was our son – because in our hearts he truly is. I was afraid that others would not understand our grief because we never actually got to take him home, and yet the opposite was true. Each person who spoke to us did so with grace, gentleness, and compassion, knowing that we had indeed lost a son...

Slowing Down the Creativity | Monday Musings

Slowing Down the Creativity | Monday Musings

I mentioned a few weeks ago that I was still processing all that I learned from Designer Trek this year. One of my biggest takeaways came from a few discussions I had with some other graphic designers about the creative process. As a photographer – or any creator – it’s easy to be focused on the end product, whether it’s an image or a graphic or a website. I know that my thought process as I photograph weddings and family sessions is all about what the final image will look like.

While there is absolutely nothing wrong with this, I realized I am losing something big when I focus on the end product – I am forgetting the process of getting there. One thing I was struggling with when I went to Lake Tahoe was creativity. I have photographed so many sessions and weddings recently that it became hard to be freshly inspired each time I arrived. While there are other photographers I greatly admire who can shoot every day and never become boring, I was struggling to ensure that I truly capture who a couple or family is rather than make easy choices when it came to posing, locations, and lighting...

The Thing that Shook My Faith | Monday Musings

I realize that it’s been radio silence over here on the adoption process ever since the last blog I posted, and now that I am removed from what happened I can say why – less than 4 months after Joel passed away we had another unsuccessful adoption attempt. And as much as January hurt me, this loss completely silenced me in a way I never anticipated.

We were notified that we had been chosen by a birth mother in mid-March, just 2 ½ months after our traumatic loss. Though she was not due until late in the summer it seemed like a sure thing and I was strangely not filled with the anxiety that I anticipated with our next successful match. We already had what we needed to bring a little one home so preparation was not really necessary, and we knew it would just be a long road ahead filled with waiting until our babe came...